Humility and Positive Self-esteem in Children

by Janet Kontz, LPC

CS Lewis said “Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less.”  We are able to think of ourselves less when we are not so concerned with how others see us; when we know ourselves from within and realize we are unique; when we can truly say I know who I am. Humility should never be confused with low self-esteem.  If you have low self- esteem, you’re probably obsessed with yourself.  Humility is the character trait that…

Forgiveness

by Darrell Provinse, MA, LPC, NCC

In discussing forgiveness, Christians often speak of it glibly as if it’s a simple and easy decision, like turning on a light switch.  Others struggle and say that they are unable to forgive.  I think it’s important, in the discussion of forgiveness, to first define what forgiveness is and what it is not.  As we look for example in passages about forgiveness, Matthew 18 being one, a few things stand out.  First, we see in Matthew 18, that…

Sexual Addiction: A Multi-Factoral Approach

By Darrell Provinse, MA, LPC, NCC

In order to discuss sexual addiction we must first define our terms.  We can reasonably define an addiction as obsessive or intrusive thoughts or cravings, which produce a compulsion to act in a way that is unwanted, undesirable, or harmful either to the individual or others.  In terms of sexual addiction, I think we can reasonably cast that net broadly enough to include any unwanted, damaging, or maladaptive sexual behaviors that the individual…

Body in Focus

by Kelly Maxwell, MA, LPC

In a culture that defines a person by their body and equates being thin with the rights to respect, love, getting noticed and acknowledged, wearing nice clothes, and being appreciated, the temptation to pursue thinness at any cost can be powerful…particularly during summertime when bulky coats and sweaters are exchanged for more revealing shirts and thinner fabrics.  Many women, and some men, look to unhealthy restrictive dieting in their quests…

Commitment, Intimacy, and Fun

by Tai Yong, MA, LPC, NCC

Yale University psychologist Robert Sternberg did some pioneering work that attempted to answer the question, “What is love?”  He came up with a “Triangular Theory of Love,” which says that there are three elements to love: passion, intimacy, and commitment.  One might say that they represent the physical, the emotional, and the cognitive aspects of the relationship between husband and wife.

While one may think that …

Parenting Children with Emotional-Behavioral Issues

by Carolyn Knarr, MSW, LCSW

As a therapist and mother of a son with bipolar disorder, I have a special interest in working with children who have behavioral and emotional issues, and in supporting their families. Parenting is a difficult job, but parenting a child with ADHD, bipolar disorder, Asperger’s, or other challenges is exhausting and, at times, frustrating. Every day with these children can be like walking on egg shells.

Here are some practical parenting goals…