The Therapy is in the Question

Have you ever asked someone a question, only to have them answer with another question? It’s annoying! Isn’t it? In counseling sessions, you may notice that your therapist will do this to you a lot! Why do therapists ask so many questions? In short, that is where the therapy is! I asked our Executive Director, Darrell Provinse to elaborate on this and here is what he said:

1. TO GATHER INFORMATION

There are many reasons why we use questions in therapy. There are …

I Know____, but I Feel_____.

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By Kristy Cobillas, MEd, LPC

Feelings can be tricky. Feelings can reflect perceived reality, but they certainly do not dictate what reality is. Sometimes the two do not line up! Why does this happen? What is this dichotomy of mind that takes place between what one thinks and what one feels?

The answer, in part, is biological. Different parts of the brain have different functions. For example, the prefrontal cortex is the area that is known …

How to Cool It When You Are Burning Up Mad

how-to-cool-it-when-you-are-burning-up-mad by byron loy, Agape Christian Counseling Services St Louis MOBy Byron Loy, MA, LPC, LCPC, CRADC

Anger isn’t a wrong emotion or even a bad emotion. There are even some things which should probably make us angrier than they do. However, even in those instances, there are appropriate ways to handle our anger. Jesus told us, in Mathew 5:21, “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not murder, anyone who murders will be subject to judgment’.” So far so good, I hope…

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How To Build Trust In A Relationship

By Darrell Provinse, MA, LPC, NCC, Executive Director

I don’t believe that you can live for very long on this planet without realizing that the fairy tale ideal of “Happily Ever After” is just that — a fairy tale. Broken people, in a fallen world, hurt each other, sometimes in big ways, sometimes in small ways. Sometimes, we relive or carry around past wounds from other relationships and import them into the present. Whatever the cause, I think most people, by the time…

Lessons Taught by Trauma

By Kristy Cobillas, MEd, LPC

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“What good does it do to talk about it, if it’s not going to change anything?”

When it comes to trauma, there are those who will attempt to mentally and emotionally bury the experience. It is true that simply talking about the past does not change it. Recounting the memory of a horrendous experience may do little more than cause one to re-experience the emotional pain. In therapy, victims of trauma can process the event(s) with the help of a professional,…

12 Tips for Parenting Your Teenager

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My teenager just doesn’t listen to me! They’re always on their phone, texting or playing games. They sleep all the time. They never want to talk to me, and when they do, it’s so sarcastic! Help!

Does this sound familiar? We often hear from parents of teenagers that they find it difficult to connect with their kids when they reach the adolescent stage of life. Many parents feel that this is the most daunting time to be a parent. Helping your…