How to Cool It When You Are Burning Up Mad

how-to-cool-it-when-you-are-burning-up-mad by byron loy, Agape Christian Counseling Services St Louis MOBy Byron Loy, MA, LPC, LCPC, CRADC

Anger isn’t a wrong emotion or even a bad emotion. There are even some things which should probably make us angrier than they do. However, even in those instances, there are appropriate ways to handle our anger. Jesus told us, in Mathew 5:21, “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not murder, anyone who murders will be subject to judgment’.” So far so good, I hope…

You have heard that it was said to the

Anger: A Multifactorial Approach

by Darrell Provinse, MA, LPC, NCC, Director and CEO

anger multifactorial approach - lioness no wordsAnger. What is it?

Anger is a God-given emotion that gives us energy to protect someone else or ourselves, or to take action against an injustice. Anger itself is not wrong.  What we do with anger or in anger can be very wrong.  Anger can very often signal that something is wrong with us with our relationship, in our psychological life, emotional life, or thought life, etc.  Anger is a secondary emotion.  Underneath anger, …

Dysfunctional Anger

By Bob Vass, MEd, PLPC, NCC

The one who harbors anger is like the person who picks up a hot coal to hurl it at his enemy:  that person is the only one who gets burned.(Chinese Proverb)

So it is with dysfunctional anger – with one significant difference. That kind of anger also affects more than just the perpetrator; it can destroy relationships and ruin families.

There is a distinction between anger as a normal human reaction and anger that turns into irrational rage.  Healthy…

Anger Management

Anger presents itself in many different ways. Underneath the anger often lies sadness, shame, fear, or guilt. Anger can affect our relationships in significant ways.

Use the questions below as a self-reflective guide.

Do you…

  • find it difficult to control how you act when you’re angry?
  • feel like your anger is like a volcano that erupts unexpectedly?
  • fear that your anger causes you to hurt people you love?
  • experience other people being afraid of your anger?