I Know____, but I Feel_____.

The Dichotomy of Mind Caused by TraumaI know but I Feel - The dichotomy of Mind caused by Trauma (wide title)

By Kristy Cobillas, MEd, LPC

Feelings can be tricky. Feelings can reflect perceived reality, but they certainly do not dictate what reality is. Sometimes the two do not line up! Why does this happen? What is this dichotomy of mind that takes place between what one thinks and what one feels?

The answer, in part, is biological. Different parts of the brain have different functions. For example, the prefrontal cortex is the area that is known …

Holidays with an Eating Disorder

10 tips for navigating the holidays with an eating disorderThe holiday season is here! Almost all holiday parties and gatherings revolve around food and drink. Although this can be fun for many, it can be frightening for those with disordered eating. Creating a sense of safety around food and meal planning is essential experiencing a joyful season with family and friends. Evidence-based research has shown that if you are someone who struggles with an eating disorder, it is beneficial to navigate the holidays with the help of your treatment…

The ‘WHAT IF…’ OCD Group

Support group for OCD/Anxiety disorders at Agape Christian Counseling Services St Louis MO. Contact Kristy Cobillas LPC for details 314-643-8506Group counseling for Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), starting November 7, 2016

What if I forgot to turn the stove off and my house burns down?
What if I didn’t clean up well enough and someone else gets sick?
What if I lose control and hurt myself or others?
What if I don’t do everything perfectly and God sends me to Hell?

If you have OCD, you may find yourself in a persistent state of worry over the ‘what if’s in life. You feel as though you are held captive by your thoughts…

The Only Way Out Is Through: Understanding and Embracing Relationship Fears

Understanding and Embracing Relationship Fears - no title picMany of our Agape articles embody a theme of embracing our core relationship fears and learning how to tolerate the undesirable emotions that come with them.  In order to move from self-judgment toward self-compassion, it’s important to understand our core fears, their origin, and how they impact our thoughts, feelings and relationships. This means we have to move toward the fear rather than avoid it. Once we acknowledge a relationship fear and move towards it, the fear…

Lessons Taught by Trauma

By Kristy Cobillas, MEd, LPC

Lessons Taught By Trauma - no title pic

“What good does it do to talk about it, if it’s not going to change anything?”

When it comes to trauma, there are those who will attempt to mentally and emotionally bury the experience. It is true that simply talking about the past does not change it. Recounting the memory of a horrendous experience may do little more than cause one to re-experience the emotional pain. In therapy, victims of trauma can process the event(s) with the help of a professional,…

Empty Nest: Ambivalent Emotions

empty nest - no titleThis summer I watched a mommy bird build a nest in our back yard. Never before had I witnessed such a cycle of nature. This mommy bird was very nurturing and protective. Every day she sat on her little eggs with a watchful eye. When her babies hatched, she was faithful to care for them. She guarded them, she nourished them and she taught them. Then, as is God’s design, one day the nest was empty.

Empty Nest and Mixed Emotions

Like the mommy bird, as parents, we are nurturing and protective.…