Humor: The Priceless Secret Weapon

There is something about the early morning hours that is appealing to me. The stillness of the day, listening to the aung-san-suu-kyi-quotebirds “wake up,” smelling the freshness of the air and watching the colors of the sky. Most of my energy is expended before noon. So imagine my dismay as a newlywed when my husband didn’t start moving till 11:30? You guessed it. Major Conflict. Honestly, how could I not know this before we were married?!? Now, all of a sudden, he sleeps until noon?!? Love casts …

Empathy: The Connection Tool for Your Relationship Toolbox

empathy the connection tool for your relationship toolbox wide picIn previous articles, we have discussed some tools that help strengthen relationships.  Some of these topics have included tools for gaining a stronger sense of self, tools for confrontation and using your voice, tools for getting free of relationship gridlock, as well as tools for understanding the neurochemistry of the brain in committed relationships. Sometimes applying the tools to improve our relationships can be challenging. If you struggle with putting your relationship…

Just Love Yourself

Kathy, I want to transform my relationships with others this year. I want to be more patient, forgiving, and compassionate, have better boundaries and be more loving. How can I do this?

 

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How can you demonstrate patience if you are not patient and kind with yourself?

How can you be forgiving if you are judgmental and unforgiving toward yourself?

How can you show mercy and compassion to others if you are critical of yourself?

How can you have healthy boundaries…

Neurochemistry of Committed Relationships

Meet Your Happy Chemicals PicResearchers have noted that there are three stages to the development of love, each with their own set of neurochemical responses. Different “happy chemicals” are released during different stages. Since God made our brains and designed them to meet the needs we have in life, our brains have been specially wired for these stages of falling in love and staying in love. For the purpose of this article, we’ll touch on the first two stages, and concentrate in particular on the…

Helicopter Mode: Who’s It For… Really?

When we love and are committed to our family members, we want to ensure their success and happiness. It’s natural at times, however, that we may feel responsible, or be made to feel responsible, for the failures or unhappiness of those we love. This can include both our children and our spouse. Feelings of responsibility for another person’s emotions and behaviors can drive us into guilt, which may challenge our own personal boundaries. Before you know it, we might …

1st Corinthians 13: Parenting with Love

by Carolyn Knarr, MSW, LCSW, Director of Children’s Therapeutic Services

Sometimes it is hardest to apply God’s Word to relationships within our family. Let’s face it, our family and children can push us to our limits. We are often quick to react to the flaws of our family members even though we can easily show grace to strangers; and we easily show love and patience and bite our tongues when co-workers do things that bother us.

Below is the well-known chapter on love from …