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How To Build Trust In Relationships

By Darrell Provinse, MA, LPC, NCC, Executive Director

I don’t believe that you can live for very long on this planet without realizing that the fairy tale ideal of “Happily Ever After” is just that- a fairy tale. Broken people, in a fallen world, hurt each other, sometimes in big ways, sometimes in small ways. Sometimes, we relive or carry around past wounds from other relationships and import them into the present. Whatever the cause, I think most people, by the time they…

The Best Valentine’s Day Gift: Another Chance

By Cathy Downen, MA, MA, PLPC

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.1 Corinthians 13:4-8, NIV

Love is a many splendored thing when you’re first dating Mr. or Miss Right, and Valentine’s…

‘Parenting the Love and Logic Way’ Comes to Agape

By Kathy Bleitner, MEd, LPC

Agape Christian Counseling has recently started offering Parenting the Love and Logic Way Classes!

What is Love and Logic?

Love and Logic is a philosophy of raising and teaching children, which allows adults to be happier, empowered, and more skilled in their interactions with children. Love allows children to grow through their mistakes. Logic allows children to live with the consequences of their choices. Love and Logic is a way of working with…

How to Forgive the Unforgivable

By Cathy Downen, MA, MA, PLPC

Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.Psalm 51:10, ESV

At Agape Christian Counseling Services, we assist many people who are struggling to find freedom in the aftermath of feeling deep hurts. We help clients cope with the results of living in a fallen world and journey with them on the road to recovery from all varieties of abuse, addictions, infidelity, poverty, racism, grief, illness, unemployment, and many other kinds…

Sometimes Loss is the Best Thing

By Kimberly Webb, MA, MBA, PLPC

But this season of the year always hurts so much!  It is the time of year I lost my brother. When the weather turns colder, I just don’t want to do anything, and my family holidays have just never been anything but a reminder of what I’ve lost.

This is a paraphrase of real life stories,  related to me again and again from clients, each reflecting its own version of details but leaving behind the same message.  Loss is hard!

In my own life, …

Perfectionism: Not So Perfect

The Problem with Perfectionism

Bob Vass, PLPC, NCC
Perfectionism does not exist; to understand it is the triumph of human intelligence; to expect to possess it is the most dangerous kind of madness.Alfred de Musset, nineteenth century French poet

A person’s blind pursuit of perfection causes constant frustration and pain.  If you are a perfectionist, by trying to achieve the impossible in every area of your life, you set yourself up to fail again and again.  By demanding…

Raising Teenagers with Good Values

By John A. Leber Jr. MA, PLPC

Having worked in education for over  six years as a counselor, teacher, and coach, I’ve found one  troubling question that keeps presenting itself: Who is raising our teenagers and from where do they get their values and sense of worth?  The obvious answer would be that their parents are raising them and are instilling the appropriate values and beliefs.  Unfortunately, we need to question this belief and realize that our teenagers are…

Lose and Win at the Same Time: A Lesson from Jesus on Marital Surrender

By Kristy Cobillas, MEd, PLPC
For whoever wants to save  his life will lose it, but whoever loses  his life for my sake will find it.Matthew 16:25

We know in this chapter that Jesus was talking about how the Christ follower is to lay down (or sacrifice) what he or she wants and how he or she thinks things should be, in order to follow the way that is laid out by Christ Jesus.

This same concept of surrender can be applied to the marital unit. Paul states in Ephesians 5:21 that husbands…

Marriage and the Bible

By Michele Anthony, MSW, LCSW

Being married is one thing, but being happily married is quite another. Marriage can be one of the most challenging relationships created by God and sometimes that’s because we enter marriage with unrealistic expectations. Many of us expect that marriage will make us happy. It won’t. All it does is make us married. It’s up to us to make our union a happy one. One of the best ways to increase our chance that our marriage is happy is to clearly understand…

Restoring Your Child By Giving A Behavioral “Re-do”

By  Shelley Kues, MEd, LPC, Child Therapist
The Lord turned and looked straight at Peter. Then Peter remembered the word the Lord had spoken to him: “Before the rooster crows today, you will disown me three times.”  And he went outside and wept bitterly. James 1:19

Peter denied Jesus three times on that awful night.  Peter had every intention  of doing “the right thing” earlier that evening when Jesus had predicted that  Peter would disown him. Peter…

Dysfunctional Anger

By Bob Vass, MEd, PLPC, NCC

The one who harbors anger is like the person who picks up a hot coal to hurl it at his enemy:  that person is the only one who gets burned.(Chinese Proverb)

So it is with dysfunctional anger – with one significant difference. That kind of anger also affects more than just the perpetrator; it can destroy relationships and ruin families.

There is a distinction between anger as a normal human reaction and anger that turns into irrational rage.  Healthy…

What’s In a Name: Who and What We Are

Agape is the first word in our name and refers to the selfless, sacrificial, and unconditional love God has for His children. It’s part of our name because our goal is to reflect that kind of love as much as we humanly can to each and every one of our clients. We seek God’s wisdom, grace, and truth, without being condemning, judgmental, or combative.

I’m Darrell Provinse, Executive Director of Agape Christian Counseling Services. It seemed fitting in launching the first …