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When Life Goes Off The Road

When Life Goes Off The Road - Byron Loy MA, LCPC

by Byron Loy, MA, LPC, LCPC, CRADC

There are times in life when no physical pain can compare with the emotional pain we feel from grief and loss. On a cold November night in Michigan, two days after I turned eighteen, I fell asleep at the wheel on my way home from roller-skating with my church youth group. I woke up as soon as my tires hit the gravel on the side of the road but I was unable to gain control and went off the road. My left arm went through the driver’s side window and dirt …

How to Help Your Grieving Children, Teens, and Families

how to help your grieving child teenager family - wide title picBy Lisa Mottola Ernst, MSW, LCSW

In working with grieving children, teens and families, I get many questions concerning children and their ability to grieve.

Is my child grieving?
Why do they want to go to their best friend’s house for a sleepover, when grandpa just died a week ago?
Why can I do to support my child?

Before answering these questions, it is important to note that children grieve differently than adults. For them, the loss of a parent, sister, brother, grandparent,…

The Therapy is in the Question

Have you ever asked someone a question, only to have them answer with another question? It’s annoying! Isn’t it? In counseling sessions, you may notice that your therapist will do this to you a lot! Why do therapists ask so many questions? In short, that is where the therapy is! I asked our Executive Director, Darrell Provinse to elaborate on this and here is what he said:

1. TO GATHER INFORMATION

There are many reasons why we use questions in therapy. There are …

I Know____, but I Feel_____.

The Dichotomy of Mind Caused by TraumaI know but I Feel - The dichotomy of Mind caused by Trauma (wide title)

By Kristy Cobillas, MEd, LPC

Feelings can be tricky. Feelings can reflect perceived reality, but they certainly do not dictate what reality is. Sometimes the two do not line up! Why does this happen? What is this dichotomy of mind that takes place between what one thinks and what one feels?

The answer, in part, is biological. Different parts of the brain have different functions. For example, the prefrontal cortex is the area that is known …

How to Cool It When You Are Burning Up Mad

how-to-cool-it-when-you-are-burning-up-mad by byron loy, Agape Christian Counseling Services St Louis MOBy Byron Loy, MA, LPC, LCPC, CRADC

Anger isn’t a wrong emotion or even a bad emotion. There are even some things which should probably make us angrier than they do. However, even in those instances, there are appropriate ways to handle our anger. Jesus told us, in Mathew 5:21, “You have heard that it was said to the people long ago, ‘Do not murder, anyone who murders will be subject to judgment’.” So far so good, I hope…

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How To Build Trust In A Relationship

By Darrell Provinse, MA, LPC, NCC, Executive Director

I don’t believe that you can live for very long on this planet without realizing that the fairy tale ideal of “Happily Ever After” is just that — a fairy tale. Broken people, in a fallen world, hurt each other, sometimes in big ways, sometimes in small ways. Sometimes, we relive or carry around past wounds from other relationships and import them into the present. Whatever the cause, I think most people, by the time…